Three low cost ways to build self-esteem
Build self-esteem now. Inside you, and everyone else, is a beautiful person. Sadly, this inner beauty can get covered up by a lot of junk that we pick up as we go through life. This can result in our being unable to see our own beauty and self-worth. When we do this we can become very critical of ourselves and suffer from low self-esteem.
But all is not lost. There are many ways to build self-esteem so you can feel strong and confident. You just have to know what to do, and then do it. The choice is always yours. You don't have to let other people steal your self-esteem or self-confidence.
Here are some tips on how to build self-esteem for you. They are free and easy to do.
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Build self-esteem tip 1: Decide you really do want a higher self-esteem.
Sometimes having a low self-esteem can feel so familiar to you - it feels like it is natural for you. Do not be tricked. What feels natural can sometimes simply be what you have done the most often.
If you have spent your life saying you have low self-esteem then, of course, it may feel natural. Not because it is natural but because you have told yourself this more often than you've told yourself that your self-esteem is strong.
In order to build self-esteem, you need to decide that this is the way you want to be. That this is your goal. Without the determination to improve your self-esteem and to be free of your negative thinking, you won't build self-esteem.
Unless you practise these tips, the tips won't work either. The choice is always yours. What will you do?
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Build self-esteem tip 2: Self-esteem can build when we laugh a lot.
Laughter is good for you and good for your self-esteem. If you can laugh then it means you aren't taking the world or yourself too seriously and that is a good sign of self-esteem.
Laughter also boosts your beauty. You don't need eye drops to make your eyes sparkle, you need laughter. Laughter makes the skin glow and the eyes come alive. Now that is attractive.
Ask anyone you know if they like to see eyes that sparkle and in nearly all cases the answer will be, "Yes". There's even been a song written about them, "Take a pair of sparkling eyes".
Let your self-esteem rocket as your eyes sparkle.
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Build self-esteem tip 3: Set yourself a target to achieve.
People who set goals have been found to get on better in life than those with no goals. Set goals that will help you build self-esteem.
For instance, when you are with other people decide in advance how you will behave, e.g. how long it will be before you speak out at a meeting. When you are in a meeting will you speak in the first 5, 10 or 20 minutes? Whatever you do, promise yourself you will speak out, and do it before your deadline.
You can set goals in networking conversations too. For example, set yourself a time limit by which you will have spoken to a stranger, or set yourself a minimum number of people to meet.
Having a goal will give you extra courage and your self-esteem will build once you have achieved it.
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Written by Rachel Green: Motivational Speaker | Award-winning Communication Specialist | Emotional Intelligence Coach.
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Copyright Confident Woman Australia, 2010.
NB: This article is not provided as an alternative to obtaining professional advice from an appropriately qualified professional.
Rachel Green
Reader Comments (4)
For me that means talking with a psychologist and reading up on what self esteem is, how it is developed, how to challenge thoughts that feed that negative sense of self etc etc.
I've learnt the value of accepting where I'm at emotionally and then challenging myself to learn, grow and develop myself into a happier person - it's a work in progress.
My tip to anyone who suffers from low self esteem is that is doesn't always have to be that way, you don't have to suffer it and seeking helping isn't a sign of weakness but of strength!
Michelle Anderson, Director, PamperBoxes http://www.pamperboxes.com.au/
I think one of the important things about both self-esteem and self-confidence is that there is no such thing as 100% self-confidence and 100% self-esteem. I don't think anyone has either, (and I mean anyone).
The problem comes when we think we ought to be 100% confident all the time or have a high self-esteem all the time. We don't. The myth of super women with 100% confidence is harmful and needs to be got rid of.
What matters is that we have the self-confidence and self-esteem to do what we want and need to do in the best way possible. Self-doubt and some wariness are also vital in business, aren't they?
And yes, it is wonderful to reach out and get help. There are some excellent psychologists around who can provide this.
Let yourself shine.
Rachel.
"I want to know and care about myself. I want to feel high energy and a sense of freedom." That's my nutshell description of the essence of high self-worth. High self-worth means also that I am able to:
• Make choices that impact the way I live. I am not a helpless creature drifting passively at the mercy of the winds of chance and the currents of fortune I am a choicemaker and actively determine my own existence.
• Enjoy my own body. I am a multi-dimensional being – mental, spiritual and physical and I can take equal pleasure in my body, mind and spirit.
• Recognise and accept that the way I feel about myself inside affects the way I relate to people outside. When I feel positive about myself, I am able to build and maintain positive, life enhancing relationships. And I am able to relate to people in meaningful and satisfying ways.
• Finally, I know that as I raise my own self-worth, I will feel more integrity, honesty, compassion, energy and love. And I am able to truly experience joy in my life.