Staying in a bad relationship can produce a lack of confidence. Find out how Mardi restored her self-confidence and now leads a life free of guilt.
I am a 33 year old Business Development Manager at Crunch Design, a creative communication agency in Sydney, NSW. My role involves creating new business relationships through networking, social media and marketing.
I was born in Sydney and am the middle child of 3 girls. My grandmother on mum's side immigrated to Australia via boat when she was 6 years old. Pop had his own building business and worked on quite a few of the old apartment buildings around Sydney. He was also the first to cycle the Harbour Bridge. Mum and Dad owned a very successful Bar Code business, the first in Australia until they sold it in 2001.
I have been working in the design industry for 12 years and had my own design business for over 5 years. I decided to return to full time work a year after the birth of my daughter as I found it hard to network, market and work from home with an active infant.
Crunch Design suffered from the recession earlier on in the year so I stepped in to bring in new clients and create awareness that Crunch Design is a player in the industry.
I am loving the new role. I network with The Athena Network, Business Chicks and a circle of friends through Twitter and Facebook. I meet inspiring business people on a weekly basis who are willing to help, guide and give non-judgmental advice.
I lost my confidence when I was in the wrong relationship with my daughter's father. Constantly being put down and disrespected, I knew I would not get anywhere in life if I stayed in the situation. So I left, and instantly felt empowered to further my career, health and lead a life free of guilt and self-hate.
I am most likely to have self-doubt in my parenting role. Am I doing the right things? Is she eating well? Is she getting enough exercise? Do I work too much? (Yes!) As a single mother I discipline on my own and it is a constant challenge.
The hardest time for me to keep my self-confidence is when I let the little things grow in my mind. If I let worries or concerns take over my mind space I tend to lose confidence, second guess myself and feel quite down. However, I overcome the lack of confidence by stepping back from the situation before it boils and taking the time to meditate. I have found meditating can rejuvenate my body and mind by releasing unconstructive thoughts.
What has helped me build my confidence is surrounding myself with an inspiring network of people whom I can learn from and create fulfilling friendships with.
It’s good to have self-confidence because the challenges that I face on a daily basis are easily overcome by self-love and respect. Love yourself and it will reverberate with others.
I keep my self-confidence by standing behind all decisions and knowing that the life I am making for myself and my daughter is a positive one.
Read about Crunch Design. http://www.crunchdesign.com.au
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