Snap shots radiate self confidence
One of the most successful confidence techniques that I’ve ever used is to take mental snap shots of myself when I'm radiating self confidence. Then I replay these in my mind. In this way my self confidence expands and becomes stronger than ever. It also becomes a self fulfilling habit.
Here's how to do it.
Remember, for a moment, a time when you felt really good about yourself, or confident within yourself or you were content. Recall this time.
You don't have to have been doing anything significant. It might just be that you felt good looking at a flower, brushing your child's hair, finding a present you knew someone would enjoy, cooking a perfect curry, speaking out at a meeting, or smiling at a stranger.
When you have this memory in your mind, pay full attention to:
- How you felt.
- What you looked like.
- How you moved.
- What you were wearing.
- What you're facial expression was.
- How you were breathing.
- The colours around you.
- What you were doing.
- The sounds around you.
Recall every detail so you get to know this memory in depth, and vividly. Know it really well. Once you know the details then commit to memory this snap shot of your self radiating confidence.
Then replay this snap shot of confidence. Replay it often. Keep replaying it.
Wake up in the morning and replay it. Walk into a meeting and replay it. Replay it as you pick up the phone to call a difficult client. Replay it before you have to discuss a difficult issue with your partner. Replay it while rehearsing to give a speech.
Make this snap shot of confidence a habit that inhabits you.
Then add another snap shot to your confidence album. Go through your memory bank and have 2 snap shots, then 3, then 4, then 5. Have ten that you can recall in an instant.
At a recent "Sparkling with confidence" course for women, one of the women there got great results from her snap shots.
The night before the course she attended a speech I gave to 100 women. The next morning, she put up her hand with some excitement. "This morning I did something I would not have done before, and all because I have been rehearsing the snap shots of confidence.”
The other women burst into loud applause. Her excitement was catching.
“I decided, before the course this morning, I wanted to go to a frock shop and take in an outfit I'd bought for a wedding and have it altered. There were two other things I wanted to do as well. In the past I’d have said to myself, 'You can't do that, you'll be late'. But today I said 'I can do that' and I have. I did all three things and got myself here on time. (It was a 10.00 am start). And now I'm going to look fantastic at the wedding. And all because of the snap shot of confidence I practised since last night.”
She was positively glowing. We all celebrated her big step forward. "Snap shots of confidence" is a confidence technique that anyone can use.
Each time in the future when you feel good about yourself, stop for a moment and deliberately take a snap shot of your self confidence.
Notice at this very point:
- How you are feeling.
- What you are doing.
- What your head position is.
- What you are doing with your hands.
- How you are gesturing.
- How you are sitting or standing.
- What kind of facial expressions you have.
- Where you look with your eyes.
- Where your energy centre is ... and so on.
Notice all the details about you now, as you have self confidence.
Add this snap shot to your confidence album and replay it often.
When you spend your time replaying snap shots of confidence, your confidence becomes a friend that is with you more and more.
It does not matter what you are doing. All that matters is that you feel good about yourself. Once you feel good about yourself remember it. Then replay it often.
Again.
And again.
It's such a lovely confidence technique.
What memory will you replay?
You can hear people using the snapshots of confidence in real life on the "Confidence in public speaking" CDs.
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Reader Comments (2)
Keep up the great work.
Thanks again,
Amanda
Joanna Maxwell