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Saturday
Dec052009

Self-esteem boosters for better sex

Self-esteem boosters may be needed during sex. Does this apply to you? Do you feel a little embarrassed about your body during sex? Do you think your body is not good enough? Do you need to increase self-esteem and self-confidence so you can enjoy sex better?

What self-esteem boosters do you need? What would increase self-esteem and self-confidence for you in the bedroom? Give us your ideas.

Cosmopolitan Magazine, December 2009, in an article on "Lights on Romance" suggested you increase self-esteem and self-confidence during sex with the following 3 tips:

1. Use lamps instead of overhead lights.

As I was thinking whether this would increase self-esteem and self-confidence I realised, if it were that bad you could always do it in the dark!

2. Choose positions that won't make you obsess: missionary will hide your tummy and side-by-side takes the focus off your butt.

Would doing this raise my self-esteem and self-confidence during sex, I wonder? I think not because I'd be so self-focused on my "bad bits" that I'd barely be focusing on sex at all! Do you agree with me? Would this help you increase self-esteem and self-confidence?

3. Leave on a piece of clothing, like a lacy camisole to keep your body a little covered.

Yes! Sexy clothing can help some women to increase self-esteem and self-confidence as they feel sexier. What happens when your partner rips it off in sexual lust for your body, though? What happens to your self-esteem and self-confidence then? Hopefully when this happens you are already enjoying yourself and have stopped worrying.


Here are three more self-esteem boosters during sex from me.

4. Forget what you think about your body, your partner may not care!

After all, they are having sex with you so your body can't be that bad! Increase your self-esteem and self-confidence by realising this. Also, remember that what you worry about in your body your partner may love. Similarly, they may not even have noticed. What you notice may not be what they notice.

5. Concentrate on pleasuring your partner and become engrossed in his (or her) enjoyment.

When you know that your partner is enjoying what you do then your self-esteem and self-confidence can soar! Self-esteem boosters can be this easy! How good it feels to know he or she is enjoying themselves because of what you do! How good is that for your self-esteem and self-confidence? It's fantastic. They are not going to notice the size of your backside, your stretch marks or your cellulite when they are in bliss, are they?

6. Focus on and enjoy the sensations.

When you are worrying about your butt how can you be getting turned on? Instead, pay attention to the nice feelings that you have when your partner touches you, kisses you or caresses your skin. When you focus on these they may increase and so can your self-esteem and self-confidence. As an added bonus your partner's self-esteem and self-confidence may also soar when you enjoy it.

7. Other self-esteem boosters are in your head.

Let your head go somewhere sexy. Think of things that turn you on. Sexual fantasies can help increase self-esteem and self-confidence beautifully and turn you on at the same time. After all, when you are turned on your partner will probably find this a turn on. Now that's good for everyone's self-esteem and self-confidence! Self-esteem boosters can benefit both of you. Enjoy!

Of course, there are professional sex therapists who are also available to help you sexually have greater self-esteem and self-confidence. Please go to them if your problems are serious or requiring professional help.

Do these self-esteem boosters work for you?

Let us know what other self-esteem boosters you use.

 

Cosmopolitan magazine.

Have you got your FREE E-book: "Look good without cosmetic surgery" yet? It's full of self-esteem boosters and can help you feel good about your body. It is available FREE in the right hand column on this page, or click here.

Reader Comments (1)

From a very early image we, as women, are indoctrinated with "perfect" images of what we are supposed to / going to look like. The implication is that if we fall short of these images then we won't be desirable to men.

The "perfect" images are wrong but we take them to heart and deep down, due to the excessive exposure we have received, we try to emulate them and think we won't be desirable when we don't fit the mould. Hence we worry when we have sex and men see our bare bodies.

(I think men, in contrast, are indoctrinated with the notion that they must have lots of money to be desirable to women.)

Sacha
Sun 27 Dec, 09 at 8:47 AM | Unregistered CommenterSacha

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